4 Relationship advice on how to have a strong romantic relationship according to gurus and experts
Introduction
Having a relationship is part of us being human, as it was mentioned in John Donne’s devotion in 1624, he stated that “No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the Continent, a part of the main.” which means that we humans tend to fail if we do things on our own, that we should be connected.
But how is this relevant? In this article, we will discuss the 4 Relationship advice on how to have a strong romantic relationship according to several relationship experts/gurus. We will further elaborate their ideas to help you strengthen your relationship with your partners, and to help us understand what are the things that we need to consider to help us have a strong relationship. That being said let’s jump right on to it.
Relationship Advice #1: Accept each other’s flaws and weaknesses and help each other improve
This is a usual issue in a relationship. Most people broke up because they complain about their partner’s flaws and weaknesses. One person improves and the other one isn’t improving. Why is this important in a relationship?
Being in a relationship, you should help your partner improve as you improve as well. Flaws and weaknesses are part of us and that what makes us humans. It is our responsibility to inspire our partners when it comes to personal development. Because if we ignore this, this issue will affect you in the long run.
Mel Robbins’ Expert Advise
As Mel Robbins mentioned in one of her YouTube videos.
What would you do if you’re growing but the person that might be the most important person in your life isn’t growing with you? It’s a huge problem.
As she continues to elaborate…
You gotta understand, you cannot change somebody else. At the end of the day, it is up to the person you’re with to decide whether or not he or she is going to change. That said, You can do things that influence whether or not they want to.
What Mel Robbins meant is that, it’s true we cannot change the person we are in a relationship with, However, we can influence our partner by inspiring them to improve by sharing the things we learn from our personal development. For example, Share your learning from the books that you read, share stories that you experienced from the community that you part of. So on and forth.
Look at the keyword “Share“, because that is key to help your partner improve when it comes to personal development. But you cannot do this if you, yourself. Did not accept your partner’s flaws and weaknesses.
You need to understand the problem first before you can provide a solution to fix it. You cannot just give up easily without even trying or putting an effort into it, change cannot be done overnight it is a process that will take effect as you continue to practice over time.
That being said, no matter how hard it is. You must never give up on your partner just yet. You must keep on hoping for the betterment and the best for you, your partner, and your relationship.
Relationship Advice #2: Do things together, support one another.
A relationship is a bond between two persons that is driven by love and support. That said, there are times that one of you will experience failure and disappointments or success and satisfaction. Regardless of whether it’s positive or negative, It is important to share those experiences as a couple.
If your partner experiences failure, it is your responsibility to be there by his or her side and show your support to help them get over that failure or disappointment. On the other hand, if you or your partner experience success and satisfaction. You celebrate this experience with your partner as well.
Being supportive is never a hard thing to do. But somehow most people who are in a relationship fail to do this simple and very important thing to do when you are in a relationship.
Brendan Burchard’s Expert Advise
How can you be a Supportive Partner and can it help you nurture a great relationship? According to Brendan Burchard…
Four ideas can help you improve your relationship:
- First, You never know a person if you don’t know their goals
- Second, You gotta know and you have to share
- Third, You have to create unique and varied experiences
- Fourth, You have to share your personal growth journey with others
Let’s further discuss the 4 ideas in nurturing a great relationship according to Brendan Burchard. So that we can have a better understanding of what he has said.
1. You never know a person if you don’t know their goals.
It’s kind of weird but a lot of people who are in a relationship don’t even know what are the goals of their partner. Whether if this a Short-term or Long-term goal. Why is this important in a relationship?
You cannot be a great supportive partner if you do not know the goals of your partner, you need to dig deeper and understand your partner’s goals. So that you so can adjust accordingly, you will not be able to know what it is in your partner’s heart if you do not know or do not understand what are his or her plans.
Otherwise, you will end up not understanding each other and you will be starting to hear these lines, “why is he like this?”, “I don’t understand you anymore”, “You do not understand how I feel“. These are signs that both of the partners are not on the same page.
However, you can avoid this from happening by understanding each other’s desires and goals on what to do in the future for the both of you so that you can help each other achieve those goals as you two will improve as time goes by.
2. You gotta know and you have to share
In a relationship, both partners should understand each other’s fears, disappointment, and hesitations whether in life or career. Why is this important?
Knowing the fears of your partner, you will be able to understand what are the things you can help do to help your partner overcome and surpass these fears. Remember, fears and hesitations hold one’s potential and prevent us achieve our dreams in life.
Not knowing these factors is a sign that you do not know your partner well or vice versa. This is important if you want to have a strong relationship with your partner.
Because knowing your partner’s limitations and comfort zone, you will be able to understand the deeper meaning of love and support. And most of all you will be able to find a way on how will you be able to support them to surpass and overcome these fears and hesitation.
You can show your partner that no matter the uncertainty that the future holds, you are there with him or her, and you will move towards that uncertainty together as a couple.
3. You have to create unique and varied experiences
A relationship is also driven by the memories that you made together as a couple. Now, What will happen if either of you cannot produce something unique experience anymore?
Remember during the first chapter of your relationship? Either of you is trying your best to make something magical, those long sweet messages every morning, or a simple motivational letter you snuck into your partner’s bag before they go to work or take an exam.
These are unique experiences, which is a very good way to show how much you care for your partner. Or just simply have a nice talk with your partner about life and how much you wanted to spend it him or her.
Creating unique experiences doesn’t require money most of the time (unless you want to go abroad or anywhere else), a lot of people thought that buying expensive things for your partner will create unique experiences. But it won’t, material things will never be a basis of love.
It’s the experience, the time you spend with your partner is more important than material things. It about creating new experiences together, trying new things in your relationship, these memories that you create together will always be priceless.
4. You have to share your personal growth journey with others
Sharing the personal development journey of each of the persons who are in a relationship will automatically improve the relationship itself. Why is that? It’s because you are attracting your partner towards the things that you are learning from.
For example, you are learning from this blog about Paradigm Shift, Share this to partner, or this YouTube about anything else. As long as your learning and improving, you have to share it with your partner. So that your partner will learn as well.
If both individuals who are in a relationship are learning together, you are creating a stronger bond because of the conversation happening in your relationship, you are giving your partner new ideas that can improve his or her personal development.
You are growing, improving, and learning together. And your relationship will improve as the couple improves their personal development.
Relationship Advice #3: Establish and maintain good communication
Another thing that sometimes destroys relationships is lacking good communication. I’ve seen people who are in a relationship and they end up breaking up with each other, and when I asked what happened? Most of them answered “I don’t know what happened” or “we do not understand each other anymore”.
If you fail to establish good communication in a relationship, this will cause misunderstanding in your relationship. Why is that? Because both of the partners will not be able to understand one another’s a point of view, what their thoughts about something, etc.
According to Stephan Speaks, the problems that most of his clients. It’s not that the couple failed to communicate each other’s thoughts, it’s the step that skipped during this process. To further elaborate in his YouTube video. He gave 7 keys to effective communication.
The 7 keys to effective communication of Stephan Speaks:
- Listen to understand not to give a rebuttal
- You can disagree but do not dismiss
- Be open and honest
- Don’t make the conversation all about you
- Be willing to compromise
- Pay attention to both their words and body language
- Take a loving and positive approach when expressing yourself
Let’s discuss further Stephan Speaks’ 7 keys to effective communication.
1. Listen to understand not to give a rebuttal
A most common problem in communication, whether in a family or romantic relationship. Is that when you do not like what the other person is saying you tend to dismiss or not listen to what they say.
What most people do they listen so that they can create a counter or rebuttal against the person who is talking. Which is never going to fix any problem at hand, because you are not trying to understand what the other person is saying.
2. You can disagree but do not dismiss
There are 4 key components in communication. Encoding, Medium of transmission, Decoding, and Feedback. And there are 2 factors involved which are the Sender and the Receiver. And there is one factor that disrupts the communication process called Noise.
The common issue when people are talking to each other, regardless of family or in a relationship. If one person did not like what he/she heard, they dismiss the other person. Dismissing another person is a form of Noise, this disrupts completely the communication process.
Nobody likes to be dismissed, because it is disrespectful, and if one person gets disrespected it results in another form of a problem because they will switch to defensive mode and everything will not be resolved.
So never do that in a conversation. Instead, learn to listen and you can disagree but never dismiss another person just because you did not like what you hear.
3. Be open and honest
Another concern in communication, people tend to hide the truth just to cover their mistakes or sometimes their motives. And according to Stephan Speaks,
It only takes one lie to ruin a relationship.
This is true, lying should never be part of anybody’s relationship because it destroys many things such as trust and credibility. That is why it is always best to tell your partner the truth rather than lie. Otherwise, your relationship will never succeed. Since it revolves in a lie.
Sometimes that honesty may hurt their feelings, but here is a thing I’ve learned. Even in hurting feelings, it’s much better for them to deal with the hurt of truth than to dwell with the anger of the lie. – Stephan Speaks
4. Don’t make the conversation all about you
Another most common problem in a relationship is pride and ego. People who always talk about themselves rather than giving each other the opportunity to other to speak.
If you want other people to listen to what you say, you need to allow them to talk. Always remember, communication is like a two-way street.
Therefore, you need to help your partner to engage with your conversation and in your relationship.
You can express your thoughts in a conversation but after you speak, engage with your partner asking him/her “what are your thoughts about it?” or “How about you? what do you think?”.
In this way, you are encouraging your partner to express his/her thoughts and feelings. As both of you will understand each other’s points of views and opinions.
5. Be willing to compromise
In an argument, both of the partners should always remember that they are conversating to fix the issue not to fight over something. An argument is a form of communication but it was driven by a misunderstanding due to different ideas or perspectives.
However, if you manage to keep in mind that you have to be willing to compromise. Every time you came into an argument with your partner, you will be reminded that you should fix the issue at hand by prioritizing compromise rather than forcing your point towards your partner.
But you can only do this by practicing humility and humbleness over ego and pride.
6. Pay attention to both their words and body language
To improve your relationship’s communication, you should observe your partner’s body language especially if your partner is an introvert. Understanding the body language of your partner can help you understand your partner even more.
For example, my partner is an introvert and she is struggling when it comes to expressing her thoughts most of the time. So I look for signals that her body shows every time she is stressed or sad.
By doing so I was able to understand and find a way that I can do to cheer her up. Always be observant of your partner’s mannerism because mannerism is also body language, you can use that to stay in tune with your partner.
7. Take a loving and positive approach when expressing yourself
Always remember that words can be interpreted in many ways because of the tone that you are using. Meaning that even if your intention is pure but using the wrong tone can interpret it in a bad way.
This reminds me of this saying “It’s not what you say it’s how you say it.“
This is an example that if we use a different tone even if our intention is pure our partner can interpret it differently.
Relationship Advice #4: Balance the negative and positive of your relationship, Practice the Yin and Yang in Love
You are probably wondering how does the philosophy of Taoism which is known for the concept of Yin and Yang can be helpful to improve your relationship? Before we dig deeper. Let’s explain first explain.
What are the Yin and Yang?
The YinYang concept is a philosophy known from Taoism, Which explains the balance in the universe.
- Yin – Feminine, Passive force, Dark, Moon, Cold, Soft
- Yang – Masculine, Active force, Light, Sun, Hot, Hard
Many people think that the Yin Yang concept is about how one thing opposites the thing. But it is much deeper than that.
The Yin Yang concept explains the balance of all things existing and non-existing life forces. That is why if you look closely at the Yin Yang circle. You will see a small part of white in the black area. While there is a small black in the white area.
How does the Yin Yang concept help you improve your relationship?
As mentioned in the previous line, This is the philosophy about balance. In a relationship, there is a two symmetrical driving force that makes the relationship progress, You and your Partner. Now, this is where the practice of Yin and Yang comes in. In life, we face our problems and challenges as we grow up.
Why is the Yin and Yang concept are very important in a relationship?
It is important that both partners must be working together to help each other as they move on with their challenges in life, If your partner is in a Passive state, Sad, Negative.
You, as the partner, should release the opposite force which is the Active state, Happy, Positive. To maintain the balance in your relationship.
Because if both partners are not driven by the energies of the universe, the negative situations will not improve into something positive. Remember that relationship is managed by the couple.
Hence, If one partner is struggling in life, it is your responsibility to help your partner to get back on track so that both of you will improve and your relationship will be strengthened because of that.
Another example, In a relationship. You have some “Relationship Goals” such as building a house for you and your partner, or start a business together, and make plans for the future.
Applying the Yin and Yang concept, both of you should play a role and contribute to building those dreams. Meaning, if your partner is playing the role of an Architect, You must play the role of an Engineer. And if your partner is taking the lead, be the support.
Always keep in mind that the relationship is always driven by the couple’s energies. And there is no perfect relationship but that doesn’t mean that the couple cannot live a happy life together. It is always a matter of how the couple will contribute to helping each other improve to help their relationship grow.
Want to learn more about Yin and Yang Concept? Check out this article.
Conclusions
Being in a relationship is not just about sex or having good times together or whatsoever. It is much deeper than that.
A relationship is all about Love, Support, and Sacrifice. If you truly value your partner, you must be willing to put the effort into helping each other improve.
Personal development is a key factor in having a healthy relationship, plus adding the “4 Tips on how to have a strong romantic relationship” that was mentioned in this article.
There are a lot of factors to consider in having a healthy relationship, but it is never too late to learn and improve, You can freely try different things to make things work out, as long as both of the partners are willing to improve and learn more things.
You can try to watch videos of the professionals/gurus that made significant studies about having a healthy relationship.
Lastly, Always keep in mind and heart, loving your partner is one of the most important things.
Trust can easily be destroyed, It’s like a glass that if it’s broken even you fix it, it will never be the same just like before.
And put God in the middle of your relationship, As god will always be there to be the source of your strength when both of you are in a rough patch in your life.
Author: Carlo David
KG Collections is an online store on Facebook, Established on April 15, 2020. Primarily, We started selling Pre-loved goods which eventually expanded to sell brand new apparel through reselling.Now, KG Collections is a franchisee of Siomai King, Mangbok's, And other food products. We are also a franchisee and operator of the newest delivery platform called TokTok PH.Aside from franchise and reselling business. KG Collections also participates in multiple affiliate marketing programs, content creation, and online course teaching.KG Collections is managed directly by the owners Kathlene Garcia & Carlo David, the couple's goal is to build a business community for small business owners where they can attain new knowledge and be inspired with their businesses.The organization will also launch its online course programs to help the public learn new things, which the courses will be prepared by professionals who have excellent skillsets to share and teach the enrollees.-KG Collections
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